Looking back to your early 20s, do you remember doing things that just seem ‘so not you’ today? Don’t be embarrassed, we’ve all done it. And there’s actually a good reason for that. When we’re young, we simply haven’t been around long enough to really know who we are. And so, what do we do? We look to others to tell us. We take note of what people say about us, and we use that to develop a sense of self.